孩子要自己带
Children want their own
我从一开始就摇旗呐喊谁生的孩子谁带。等我生了孩子，我没有悔言并且坚决贯彻“偶滴孩子偶必须自己带”，原因有：
From the beginning I have children who are born who take cheerleaders. I have children, I do not regret the words and resolutely implement the "my child, I must bring their own reasons":
亲子之爱
Love of parents and children
还记得哲哲80多岁的爷爷在我生了夫家三代唯一的公主后，对我说：“xx，我们想孩子啊，她是我们的孙女，你就把她放在我们这儿！”我说：“爸，我知道你们想孩子，可是您应该知道，我更想孩子啊，她先是我的女儿，然后，才是你们的孙女，对吧，呵呵，再说，当妈的更想孩子，您是一位父亲，应该能理解我的。嘿嘿，我们会常回来的。”逃离矛盾
Remember zhe zhe more than 80 year old grandpa in my husband's family three generations only after the princess, to me said: "XX, we want to the child. She is our granddaughter, you put her in here!" I said: "Dad, I know you want him to, but you should know, I want more children, she first my daughter, then, is your granddaughter, huh, oh, say, when mother to child, you are a father, should be able to understand me. Hey hey, we'll always be back." Escape the contradiction
还记得二嫂在侄子2岁后跟我说过：“xx，等你有了孩子，你就知道了，到时候矛盾多，要加一个更字。”
Remember her sister-in-law in the nephew is 2 years heel I said: "XX, you have kids, you know, when the time comes many contradictions, to add a word."
比如吃饭之争：年轻的父母，主张吃好吃饱即可，而且，这个饱是以孩子自己的意愿为标准，并且，零食是断然不能多给孩子的。但是老人们，一方面大部分都还是填鸭式的要求孩子以多吃为主，而且是按自己的经验和一贯想法，要求孩子多吃，另一方面，他们也基本上做不到很好地控制孩子吃零食的习惯。
For example, the dispute over dinner: young parents, the idea of eating good enough to eat, and the full is the child's own will as the standard, and snacks are flat can not give the child. But old people, on the one hand, most are still cramming the requirements of the child to eat, but also according to their own experience and consistent idea, ask the child to eat more, on the other hand, they are basically not very good control of children to eat snacks habits.
孝顺
Filial piety
说真的，这是我的心里话，我们的父母劳苦辛勤了一辈子了，到老了，我觉得是该休息，该享福了的时候，我们又为什么非要让他们再受累照顾我们的孩子呢？也许连他们自己都说：“我们不觉得累，我们喜欢孩子，我们愿意带……”但是年迈和心有余而力不足是一个不可逾越的山。
To tell you the truth, this is my truth, our parents toil hard life, to the old, I think the rest, the life to enjoy, why are we not to allow them to involvement to take care of our children? Perhaps even they themselves said: "we do not feel tired, we like children, we are willing to take......" But the old and weak is an impassable mountain.
但是，我想，如果我孝顺，我宁愿请他们多休息，多去旅游，多享受生活，而不是满足他们爱孙女就非要带孙女的不理智思想，哈哈哈。
But, I think, if I filial, I would rather ask them to take a break, go to travel, enjoy life more than to meet their love granddaughter to be not to take the granddaughter of irrational thinking, ha ha ha ha ha.
最后，我对隔代教育的建议：
Finally, I suggest to the education for children:
第一，最好自己带，但时常回去看看老人们；
First, it is best to bring their own, but often go back to see the elderly;
第二，不论自己带还是老人带，请多一份宽容的同时，尽量坚持自己的原则；
Second, regardless of their own or the old man, please be more tolerant of the same time, try to stick to their principles;
第三，坚持自己育儿方式的时候，请技巧性地直接表达自己的观点，更让老人信服。
Third, adhere to their own parenting style, please directly express their views, more convincing.
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