does it feel like you and your parents just can't see eye to eyel? are you always fighting with them about your life?is all the arguing and butting2 heads (主要部分，要点) stressing you out? follow these steps to find some peace. here's how:
1. make a list of the things that you and your parents fight about the most.
2. identify(确定) what it is that gets you so upset or angry--are you mad that your parents disagree with you, or are you upset that they can't/won't see your point of view3?
3.decide on a fair compromise (和解，妥协)--a resolution (解决)that you can live with and that you think your parents' will accept. note: a compromise means you give up some of your demands--it does not mean that you get your way4.
4. set up a time to talk to your parents, do not just bring it up over dinner but make an actual ap- pointment and tell them that you have an important proposal(提议，建议) to make.
5. bring your notes with you to the meeting so you can stay on track if/when emmotions get high. you may even want to consider reading the note to your parents like a speech.
6. before talking to your parents, take a few deep breaths and think calming thoughts. make a promise to yourself that you will not raise your voice or get angry even if your parents "turn up the volume."
7. when you have presented your case(实情, 情况)take another deep breath and let your parents talk. really listen to what your parents have to say. even if you do not like what they are saying hold back your anger and keep your ears and mind open.
8. avoid shutting down or growing frustrated5. avoid interrupting them or jumping in with a rebuttal(反驳). just listen and absorb what they say.
9. if your parents reject your proposal, stay focused and avoid getting emmotional (情绪激动的). thank them for their time and express your disappointmentthatyoucouldnotreacha compromise.
10. if your parents accept your proposal, be grateful and assure them that you will not let them down. then do everything necessary to show them they made the right decisio
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